It has been a while since I have inked down my thoughts. Somehow, I have not been quite focused on myself. Today while posting something on my Instagram, I realized that there is something more that can explain why people left us or vice versa. And that could be because we as humans have stopped letting people live the way they wish to live. We have become toxic creatures who are eating our own souls.

This focuses somewhat on another point from my prior blog “Limits” https://afewwildwishes.ca/2021/12/09/limits/ – “Sometimes, people get fed up with all these questions and try to find solace by shutting everyone off from their lives. That raises another concern, whether this approach is the right one to take?”

We have become machines inside out. We have been exposed to such cruelty in this world that somehow, we have lost the sense of true empathy for people right beside us. To overcome our fears/ inferiorities, we hurt people in so many ways that we don’t even realize the impact our words could leave on their lives and souls.

The words, while used, seem so insignificant, harmless, and trivial – could, truly, send some innocent soul to its grave.  Have we ever bothered ourselves to think of the consequences of the words that we deliver without thinking? Did we think of the impact of our so-called joke about someone’s appearance while sitting in a group?

A mere judgment about someone’s look!

A judgment about someone’s dress!

A judgment about someone’s relationship status!

A judgment about someone’s personal life!

A judgment about someone’s life choices and their priorities!

Before opening our mouths, have we ever thought that how would all such denunciation feel if uttered for us?

In our unfortunate society, a major issue that females have to face is being pious. They are being judged even if they are stepping out to buy a loaf of bread. If they are living all by themselves, – oh my-, they are being scrutinized on every step they take. While people keep meddling in their lives for no reason. How they dressed to when is the right age to get married, are all so common criticisms they get on every step of every single day of their lives. The sarcasm and drivel don’t stop there. If the poor soul, by any chance, gets married or finds a guy in her life then she has to face even more outsiders meddling in her personal life.

Why it is such a big deal at all? Why can’t anyone be with anyone they wish to be with and just live? Why a female has to be tied up to a guy or a family to be considered pious? Why can’t she live life on her terms? Why can’t she be treated in the professional world as men are being treated? Why does she need men to show people that she can’t be taken for granted and have equal respect as any other man doing business? Why does she have to be married or widow or must have family, supporting her, if not married, to do business?

I am sure men also have their fair share of struggle in life and many friends of friends have shared their stories, but the ratio is, for sure, very less. Men are not being arbitrated while approaching clients/stakeholders for their business options. While women surely have to put up twice many barriers for their protection instead of focusing completely on the main agenda. They cannot sell their idea/ business/ projects while their major focus is on protecting their integrity, self-respect, and aura of positivity while not being tagged as ‘rude’.

It is a war that every woman might have to fight, to keep her head above water. Sometimes, the solution seems to be very simple but the next moment – everything seems to be like a convoluted and ethereal cobweb.

Whatever the case is, life surely teaches you one thing – along with many other realities – that you have to keep on learning and unlearning and you have to keep on fighting. That’s where the belief comes in, no matter what religion you follow, just remember to vibe with the happy frequencies. When the universe brings you to awkward situations, it surely gets you out of them. When it makes you experience the wrong people, that’s because it doesn’t want you to mess up the good ones it has brought to your life.

I know, sometimes when we are in the situation, it feels that the system is vilest, but it is working as a leader, a mentor, a true friend, a well-wisher, a teacher – not as a boss. It is trying its best to teach us to deal with every situation without fear. It wants us to be strong.

It only – to erase – people from our lives who are not compatible with our frequency or maybe in later life would’ve had a bad impact on our dreams, vision, and plans. Sometimes, we don’t realize the hidden messages and safety measures that the universe is making us feel but we are so blindfolded in love or whatsoever that we lose sight of those indicators and fall head over heels.

Look for those signs:

The first intuition about someone

The very second your gut crunched on the thought of some assignment

When your loved one tells you that he doesn’t like the station he was being posted to

That feeling to cancel your ticket and return to your loved ones when they ask you to stay

The first time you meet someone, and you feel suffocated

The time, when you have to interact with a client/ colleague/ friend/ business partner or any person, your heart sinks

The first time you get a chance to travel with someone and you create many unanswered questions in your mind – quite many discrepancies

When someone is getting cold feet every time you ask him/her for a straight answer

The first interaction with someone and you find them weak in many ways. Or find them quite submissive in front of certain individuals/ friends

When even at the start of relation the guy doesn’t give you financial freedom. On contrary, seeks your support in many ways. That explains a lot about someone’s personality and their sense of responsibility to be there for you Leave! Step away from those people, situations, circumstances. Understand your frequency. Understand your vibe. Listen to your intuition. Protect your aura. Protect your soul.