What is bad prayer? Bad’dua? Curse?

A lot of the time people are afraid that someone whom they’ve hurt in every possible might utter something that will haunt them for the rest of their lives. For that, they harass that particular individual even more by posing to be nice and hurting others even more.

The catch in not getting cursed is not in requesting or harassing others not to give them bad’dua. But to show via your actions that you are ashamed of your acts and ashamed of using others’ trust to pass your time. You have to prove to them that what you did was not something you consciously meant to do. But something that happened accidentally and you are willing to do anything to rectify the situation.

Being human is very simple and very convenient. But we make things so difficult with our greed and lust that we not only hurt others but our loved ones and eventually, ourselves. Yet, instead of analyzing ourselves, we tend to blame others for cursing us and making our lives miserable, if we are pious enough to understand the consequences of our prior actions. But we chose to be the difficult ones by developing greed and comparing ourselves with others at many levels. That’s when we start being a snag for ourselves and chose the path that will lead us to hurt ourselves eventually. Yet our egoistic self doesn’t let us accept the fact that it was our actions that caused us all this chaos in our lives. We still wish to find someone to put the blame on and satisfy our souls with this false analysis that it all happened due to someone else’s bad’dua/ curse that we are in this state in our lives.

I am not denying the fact that karma is the name of someone’s unsaid bad’dua for you. There are times when we forget the pain we have given to someone who truly loves us and wished to come in our safety and be part of our lives. We, due to our mental instability, outgrow the affection and love that we once felt and conveyed to the other person. We accuse them of the things which never might have occurred in their wildest of thoughts. We forget the more or less the same pain that might have caused our dear ones to go through. Our mental instability forces us to only blame others and not judge our actions. We forget that somehow we are forcing someone to experience the same distrust and insult that someone dear to us might have faced.

We, humans, miss the part that we can never use/abuse/ misuse anything or anyone for the sake of our leisure time pass. We miss the bigger picture that sooner or later, that karma – that unsaid bud’dua/curse will hit us. It always does and always hit us hard. No matter how much we harass the other person by claiming that whether one has written down his/her feelings or confided in someone – nothing matters except that it’ll only hurt the person more. What truly hurt us eventually – are those tears that rolled down someone’s cheeks into the Almighty’s hands, into the Universe’s account.

How can we even think that we can silence someone’s pain by harassing them with mere words that he/she has been cursing them? How can we ever think that merely blocking him/her will bring peace to the souls? Even if, at present, we are getting what we thought we wished for and feel happy – the universe will act, that is bad’dua.

An unsaid curse.

If we are so afraid of bad’dua/curse then why do we indulge in anything evil? Why do we hurt others for our pleasure? Why do we make them fall for us and then hit the hardest? Why do we use their weakness or weak moment to bring them closer and then abandon them? Why do we feel the urge to capture any happy or free soul and suck whatever energy is left in that poor soul? Why do we have to be part of the self-search journey that one might be on with the next to no energy in them – and we suck that too? Why can not we leave people and things as they are or however they have been struggling without interfering in their peace?

After all that we make people go through, how can we even expect that the universe won’t budge? How can we think that the universe will just sit there and watch one using someone else’s niceness and care for their benefit and to pass time? How can we think that karma will spare us for doing wrong to others? Even if someone won’t utter a word but that doesn’t mean that the universe will let you get away with everything that one has done. If not today or tomorrow but down the way of life, it will hit and it will hit hard. Sometimes, people don’t understand and they take their frustration out by accusing the other of the same things that their loved ones might be going through. They think that by doing so, they are somehow getting rid of the pain that they or their loved ones might be going through but they forget that it’s a circle and instead of breaking the circle by giving more love and security, they are becoming part of that circle.

Karma hits and it hits hard. Whether you call it bad’dua/ curse/ karma or whatever. It’s your own doing which will hit hard – if not now then later but it will.